We have two big milestones in our family this week. Today, our oldest daughter, Audrey, turns 17. Tomorrow our youngest son, August, goes in for surgery. Trying to make sure they both get all the attention they deserve or need has proven to be challenging. So, how do you make it all work? I don’t have a good answer. But I can tell you what I have done to make sure they feel like they are mom and dad’s #1 priority when they need it most.
Most importantly, I want my kids to know that they are loved. Not just on their special day, but every day. When I kiss them as they walk out the door for school or when I tuck them in at night, they know that their mommy thinks they are the center of her world. By doing that, you are solidifying the fact that even though they may not get 100% of your attention on their special day, you still love them. I want my kids to know, without a doubt in their minds, how much they truly mean to me.
I like to set aside some time in my day and week to create special moments and memories. Today, on Audrey’s birthday, we had a whole slew of events planned. We start planning her birthday in March because Audrey LOVES her birthday. But with August’s surgery tomorrow, she’s not going to get an entire day from us like she normally would. We have a bit of prepping to do for Gus’ surgery. But by creating extra special moments today, we will have created memories for her. And that’s more important than an entire day spent doing nothing.
I love to let them help with the planning or prepping of their big day. I ask them what is important to them. I let them choose dinner on their day. Take them shopping for what they think will make their day special. Like I said before, Audrey starts thinking about her birthday as soon as New Year’s has come and gone. August was excited when we he got to choose a toy to play with after his surgery. By including them in the preparations, you are helping them realize that this is their day and that their opinion matters.
By helping your kiddos know that they are your center of your attention on their one big day you will have created those moments and memories that they, and you, will cherish forever. Balancing kids is tough work. But by letting your kids help with the balancing and prioritizing, you will find it’s more fun than challenging. You may not get it right all the time, but that’s OK. We all have wins and losses. I’m not even sure how today or tomorrow will go, but I’m hopeful that I’ve done just enough to make two of my kiddos feel special. But I will be adding in a few extra hugs, kisses, and “I LOVE YOU’s” for good measure!